When It’s Ok To Dive Out Of A Date
Dating can be one of the most exciting times of your life. You’re meeting so many new and varied people, most of whom genuinely want to get to know you.
But sometimes it just doesn’t go to plan.
You’re not going to click with everyone you meet, and that’s ok. So here are some tips from the dating team behind The Inner Circle on when it’s ok to bail out early:
1) When you have a legitimate excuse
It’s actually good practice to have something planned after your first date with someone. That way if it comes to a natural conclusion you have a reason to leave without it being awkward. Limiting the length of your first date is a safe bet, and also means you have something to fall back on if it doesn’t go to plan.
2) If they show any signs of being controlling
This can be a hard one to judge, but trust your gut. Signs of controlling or manipulating behaviour on a first date should be an immediate red flag, and you’re totally allowed to make an excuse without explaining yourself. This applies regardless of gender, safety first folks.
3) If you’re both on the same page you’re allowed to be honest
In all things, but especially dating, communication is key. If you’re not having a good time, chances are they’re not either. You’re allowed to talk about it, and it may even help break the ice so you can leave as friends!
4) If they’re rude (to you or to the staff)
This does not need explaining. Immediate red flag, thank you, next.
5) If you want to!
This may seem a bit harsh, but if you want to leave there is no rule that says you can’t. As long as you’re polite, clear, and honest with the person who’s given up their time to be with you. Again, if you’re not having a good time, the chances are they’re not either. And even if they are, they won’t in the long run if you’re not honest with them. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give everyone a fair chance, but sometimes it’s kinder not to waste someone's time.
In an ideal world, none of these situations would happen and every date would be the start of a long lasting and amazing relationship. But it’s tough out there, we know that. But the solutions are easier than you’d think. The best thing you can do to make sure you’re first dates have legs is find them in the right place. This is why The Inner Circle has detailed profiles based on common interests, and a screening process to make sure you’re not trapped at a bar stuck in an awkward conversation you desperately want to run away from. And as a final plus, it’s free to register.
Good first dates are just around the corner, when you’re using The Inner Circle.
*** Using The Inner Circle during the COVID-19 outbreak ***
The spread of coronavirus (COVID-19) may present a risk to those meeting offline in some regions. At The Inner Circle, we are encouraging all of our members to stay informed and follow the World Health Organisation guidelines. Please take the most up to date information from your local health authority into account when deciding to meet anyone via our platform over the coming weeks, and avoid any unnecessary risk.
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